If you’re considering it, here’s what you need to know — I was 30 years old when I first thought about freezing my eggs. Newly divorced and not interested in dating (I’m still not), I was looking for an option to buy myself time to find a partner before my biological clock called it quits. With each passing birthday and the…

A bucket list of sorts — I recently asked my friends on Instagram, “What’s something you’d do in life if you weren’t afraid?” Here’s what they had to say:

A poem — I hide behind a persona, created to protect myself from judgement, disappointment and criticism. I feed white lies to win praise and approval. But I have to ask, Is this the real you? If it’s not, give me a sign, and I’ll keep searching for you.

I’m only asking myself why because I think I’m supposed to want this — If there’s one thing the people in my life are all-too-curious about, it’s my dating life. Are you seeing someone? What do you look for in a partner? Can I set you up on a blind date? If you want kids, you should start dating! I typically respond with something…

What would make you happy? — I’m chronically indecisive. My indecisiveness doesn’t discriminate. No matter the size or consequence of the decision, the agony is the same. Let me tell you about my curtains. In 2016, I bought my first house. I was excited to finally have a space to decorate and put my personal touches…

#2 Don’t trash talk their ex — It was Thanksgiving morning, while we were still in bed when my then-husband turned to me and asked for a divorce. We’d been married for a year and 3 months, but he’d been my person for 13 years. The details of the divorce don’t matter here. Divorce is hard regardless…

Behind this smile I am gluing the pieces of a glass heart, but the glue won’t dry. Behind this smile I am stowing achievements like pennies, to measure my worth. Behind this smile I am craving acceptance because I have yet to love myself unconditionally. Behind this smile I am dressing the wounds of words aimed at my body, from those who are closest to me. With this smile you only see what I want you to see.

Everything is weird. — Dear Me, Congratulations, you’ve made it to month 11 of the pandemic! When we first went into lockdown last March you thought to yourself, “This is going to be great! How hard could it be?” You were looking forward to spending more time at home to read, write, experiment in…

The reasons had nothing to do with the job itself — Last spring, I was offered a managerial position with a six-figure salary and after careful consideration, I declined the offer. It didn’t take long for the office chatter to spread around with other managers asking me to reconsider, and colleagues wondering why I passed up the offer. When the offer…